Starting out in a new environment can be rather daunting, especially if you’re moving to a new city. Don’t forget we live in an age where social media can be a huge help, by reaching out to people you can easily break the ice and get to know each other before even meeting.
In the meantime, we’ve set out some Dos and Don’ts to help you make friends!
Do – Be bold
It can feel very intimidating going into a setting where you don’t know anyone, but remember everyone is in the same boat! Be brave and start a conversation with someone, whether it be over social media or when you first meet. Breaking the ice is always the toughest part. But, if you’re worried about what to talk about, remember you’ve already got something in common: music! Asking about people’s tastes is a great way to get to know others and find people that have similar interests to you. In my experience, it just takes one person to get the ball rolling and before you know it, everyone’s involved.
Do – Get involved with Freshers Week
Obviously, fresher’s week is a great way to meet people, but it’s also an opportunity to find people with the same interests as you. If you’re nervous about going to events by yourself, reach out to people and ask if they fancy meeting before so you can go together. The more you get involved with events, the more likely you are to find like-minded people. This may seem obvious, but just think about the impression you’re putting out. Try not to get carried away drinking too much. Enjoy yourself, but be mindful of your limits and the people around you.
Do – Go to gigs
This may seem like a really obvious idea for a music student, however gigs are a great way to get a grasp about the music industry in your city and see what other students are doing. Going to a gig can be a great social event for people that don’t necessarily want to drink alcohol but want to still go on a night out. Plus, showing support to local bands can also prove very useful if you find yourself in a similar position.
Don’t – Blow all your money
When getting to know people, it’s easy to think it costs a lot of money. Remember there are plenty of ways to socialise without spending money. Chances are you’ve arrived in a new city in the height of summer, so make the most of the city you’re in and enjoy its public spaces and parks! Another really simple way to spend time with people is just walking with them in between lessons, or asking people to meet before/after a lesson.
Don’t – Put pressure on yourself
Remember that friendships are something that take time to build. It’s very easy to feel pressure to make friends as soon as you arrive somewhere. Be realistic and understand that friendships will naturally form if you let them. Be open minded when approaching people and give everyone a chance, as you never know who you might click with. But remember to judge characters wisely.
Don’t – Be a dick
This may go without saying but it’s a phrase you’ll hear a lot of in the music industry. And it’s so true! It’s important to have fun and be yourself, but remember to be considerate of others. It can be a really hard time for people as they adjust to being in a new environment. Some people take more time or need support whilst getting used to it. Lending an ear or simply making an effort to spend time with someone can make a huge difference.